What Are You?

This week I met my client, Amanda. She told me that she felt "stuck" in a relationship that she was in. Amanda explained that she met this person, fell in love, had a baby, and moved in together. When her baby turned 1, her boyfriend confessed that he'd been cheating on her. Obviously, Amanda was upset when he told her. But because she depended on him, she stayed with him.

Amanda went on about how bad of a situation she was in. She didn't have a good job. The money she would earn would automatically be deposited into his bank account. She depended on him financially. She said that she didn't know what she would do if she left him. Would he go after her with revenge? She was afraid of what can happen. She wanted to leave. She wanted to be saved. She worried about the next day. What to do...

I wanted to help her. I wanted to save her. I wanted to do whatever I can to protect her. Her spirit guide came through and this is what she said:

The one and only person that can help Amanda is Amanda...

When you tell the Universe:
I'm stuck.
I don't make enough money.
I hate my job.
I have a bad relationship.

You are getting exactly what you say you currently have. You focus so much on your energy and feelings towards what you don't want, rather than what you could do to make things better.

Instead of focusing on what you don't want, focus on what you already have that is absolutely wonderful.

I'm beautiful.
I have so much to offer.
I have a healthy child.
I can breathe, walk, and see.
I have another day to live.

When you change your emotions, you take control of what the the day ahead of you brings. Plan out your day joyfully. Make your day count, for there may not be a tomorrow.

If you are on an emotional roller coaster, find out which feelings are driving you. Did you know that just as colors and sounds have a range, so do feelings?

I found a list of emotional feelings online:

Victim feelings
These feelings lead us to crying in distress for a hero to save us.
Feeling like quitting and running away to hide
Feeling of being controlled
Feeling hurt or taken advantage of
Feeling of being manipulated
Feeling of being shocked or surprised
Feeling disillusioned - naïve - rejected - unwanted
Feeling shame - inadequate - anguish - guilty
Feeling a deep sense of loss - afraid - giving up
Feeling needy - helpless - fragile - hopeless
Feeling confused - depressed - like dying

Villain feelings
These feelings lead us to harmful actions if not dealt with.
Feeling like harming someone
Feeling pleasure in having hurt someone
Feeling abusive - malicious - destructive - revengeful
Feeling justified - cruel - mean - hateful - arrogant
Feeling superior - critical - judgmental - accusing
Feeling rage - angry - upset - hard - emotionally cold

Hero/Heroine feelings
These feelings are our reward for saving others. Once we’ve helped others enough times, usually we learn to become our own hero. That’s when we feel these feelings most of the time, not only when we have just saved someone else.

Feeling love - important - compassionate - acceptance
Feeling wanted - useful - resourceful
Feeling of adventure - of caring - of courage - of happiness
Feeling accepted - in control - strong - passionate - helpful
Feeling enthusiastic - passionate - determined - capable

I end this blog with a quote by Sylvia Browne:

"Try to avoid thinking about what you're not: 'I'm not happy, not rich, not good-looking,' and so on. Instead think about what you are: 'I am joyful; I am prosperous; I am beautiful.' Your self-esteem will rise immeasurably."